Ok, so you relapsed. And that is a bummer, for sure. But don't awfulize it. As was mentioned AA doesn't shoot their wounded!
Few things that jump out at me that I would ponder: You had two glasses of wine before you even realized it was a mistake? Not sure what that means. I would encourage you to strip away the denial there and look closely at ownership.
You're worried about losing your friends/being judged. What do they teach us? It's none of my beeswax what other people think of me. This isn't about what 'they' think. This is between you and your higher power....
I know that accountability, ownership, honesty...to myself are part of the foundation of my abstinence. Smashing the idea that drinking will ever work.
I'm guessing you are back to step one, but that's ok. That's the most important step. Go to a meeting,, share you experience. You will help others in doing that ! Don't be hard on yourself.