Michelle4110
Expecting an active addict or alcoholic to be reasonable and follow through is asking yourself to stop breathing by holding your breath.
I hate to break the bad news, but none of us are God, nor another adults keeper(puppeteer). We were all given the ability of free thought. We must respect that. We don't need to be in that play either.
I think what others have said was you have the ability to walk away, take care of yourself and most important your child. If he (an adult) wanted to be clean and sober, he would do the work. OR are you looking for some person/cause to save?
If you read enough around here and around the web, you will find that trying to fix them actually makes them and you worse. Just maybe some of us have been there.
AG