All in all--it was almost bizarre. Like--was he in a different relationship than I was?
Yes he was, he was in a relationship with his addiction in his own world. A world where you will always be on the outside looking in.
The therapist clearly see’s through his words right into his selfishness.
You brought up a real issue during therapy, an empty pill package you recently found in the trash and his counter to that was, saying they were from 4 years ago and were in an old coat pocket (guess he’s not worn that coat in 4 years? hum). But his counter punch worked because it now has you thinking it’s possible but the evidence just doesn’t seem to match his story, kind of like when the therapist said but your actions didn’t really match your words.
It’s amazing how all the little crap like not sewing a button on, not making a salad/lunch, not giving him back or feet rubs or not compliment him enough becomes the focus……………all of that piddle little stuff takes away from the real big focus…………..he’s an addict, probably still using. He’s like the magician who has you looking over there at this hand while he’s doing something else with the other.
When someone is still drinking/using and going to a marriage counselor to fix what that drinking/using broke it really defeats the purpose, no.