Hmmm. These are really big decisions during a super stressful time in your life. I hate that for you. Question, do you forsee any future at all with your AW? I would say lots hinges on that.
I personally would not plan to let her be alone with my child for at least six months of being sober and having an attitude of recovery, AFTER she gets out of sober living. That's just my opinion. I also wonder, don't you also have to split the savings with your AW??
Just a few questions. My heart is with you. I hate that you are going through all of this. Congratulations on the job offer, that is always an honor.