Being different from the larger drinking world around you doesn't make you a fraud in life. You just have a special set of challenges that you need to attend to in order to be healthy. There are a lot of other groups out there who have differences from the general community -- physically, mentally, socially, that lead theirs lives in ways that are not the same. Each group has its own identity but contributes to the whole at large. I think that there has been progress in society in trying to accept "the other", but there is a long way to go.
Feeling isolated from the broad "normal" community out there is a natural inclination, but we don't have to act upon those thoughts all the time. I resist the notion that there are alcoholics and "normies" in the world. We are all just humans making our way through a very complicated experience of unknowns, doubts and contradictions, and periods of great joy, too. Try not to put yourself in a box.