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Hi all - first post, so I met this guy a little over a year ago...I'm 31 and hes 42. Hit it off so well. He told me he was in recovery with 4 years clean. I kind of bypassed it...I'm not in recovery nor really knew anything about the disease up until about now. We have been dating a year. Nothing, but the best time. Great, caring, loving, amazing guy...heart of gold. My family loved him and was SO happy for me. He left his apartment and moved in with his mother (she uses) for a little bc he was looking for another place. We were suppose to move in together. He told me he was getting a place, but it was a lie bc he had relapsed...he relapsed when he went to his mothers. He confessed the trigger. I was all packed up & devastated...he checked himself into a detox and right after detox he went to a treatment center for 30 days. Now he is back at work..jumped right back into AA attending 2 meetings a day and living in a sober house. He can't believe what he did. He's ashamed, embarrassed. My parents are frightened. They don't want me with him. They want me out if I chose him, but I feel with in time...they will see and he says thats all he can do is just keep moving forward in the right direction. I completely understand my parents. I would feel the same, but again is it crazy to have faith in him? He's done it before. He knows he has to come back 10 times harder. He has too much too lose. He's a business owner, he wants a life with me. I know I'm powerless over the situation, but I truly love him and he truly loves me. I still live at home...it's hard to afford my own. He knows I need my own space and while he gets himself together he says hes putting me in an apartment. Everything under his name. He knows and wants to build the trust back up. If you could hear him speak...there is much more, but maybe I'll continue later. I know there are many successful relationships as well. I'd appreciate any type of advice.