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Yes although in my case he did wipe the slate clean as they tend to do after rehab. Our deepest chats used to be early morning too. In a sense I think it was payback for my walking out on him but who knows.
Your parents story is rare but how beneficial it is to have their insights into how these relationships work out. It's plain horrible in my humble opinion to cut someone out when you were once so close. His last words to me were, "never forgotten" with a kiss after it! I'll be forever bewildered how some people are so cold/matter of fact.
Reading that actually made me feel sick to my stomach because I know so well the effect of it. Maybe I should add that to the list as well as the feeling of having been used as a sex object while he contemplated the perfect timing of "when to break it off." That, if anything, should've killed my love for him completely.
I also wanted to say that I've been reading a lot about people leaving their partners after rehab. I think my other fear is that even if he went, maybe I wouldn't like sober him. He definitely didn't appreciate sober me. What a waste of time and energy I would've felt waiting for him. When he broke up with me, I briefly asked to try a little longer. "Why?" he said, still calm. "It will just get worse."
Probably truest thing he ever said.