Originally Posted by
Surfbee 
to be his crutch that he sometimes attacks me with... Accept that about him, be the soothing pillow he needs and pander to him... No challenging him....no arguing.... Just be a gentle calm source for him.... And if i don't feel calm, and he's in a mood. I need to deal with that alone....and not expect his support....and hope he'll get better one day... Or not....
If you have abusive inclinations, and are an addict, why ever would you get better and deal with your issues if you have a partner willing to do the above?