Originally Posted by
Ladybird579 
You reminded me of the fact my exah never once hugged me in 20 years of being together no matter what. It's good you have friends who can be a good yardstick for any future partner.
I'm so sorry for what you went through Ladybird. I can relate to the emotional disconnect with an alcoholic partner, but I can't imagine dealing with it for 20 years! I hope you find/have found a partner that treats you better!