I am in no way going to give advice, as I am not in a position to. My understanding is that its about noticing the red flags quicker and sooner and being able to set boundaries appropriately.
Last time around, red flags were kicking off all over the place, and I basically wrapped myself around those flags and made them my home! 🙄
According to melody beattie in her book, if we have history/been around alcoholics a lot, we became vibrationally familiar with them. Apparently then, as adults, even subconsciously, we notice/pick out/are drawn to people, even without or conscious knowing, who vibrationally feel familiar!!! How crazy is that...it blows me away every time I read it.