spookyboo…...at the risk of sounding glib---If you are going to go fishing, you had better be prepared to throw some of them back.....
Lots of people have attractive qualities that cause us to be drawn to them....interested in them....And...they may be very talented and capable in some areas of their lives...
The whole point of dating is to get to know a person better.....by spending time with them and being inquisitive.....
So, you find out the red flags, early on....good...
It happens to all of us....
Why assume that it is something wrong with YOU?