It just boggles the mind how someone can stay employed at a high level and have this lack of reality in another part of his life. The saddest part about all of this is my kids. They have lost what a father should be and are left with this shell of a person and on top of it my daughter told me that she had seen multiple times the way he looked at me when I was enforcing boundaries on not living with an active alcoholic. She was saying his eyes turn black and he looks at me like he wants me dead..... that scared her like staring directly into the beast. I can't believe I stayed long enough for my daughter to see that, I had seen it for a good couple of years, he just couldn't contain it anymore. When I get tired of this divorce stuff my daughter and my sister tell me to keep going. If nothing else I will not let my daughter down, she needs me to continue standing up for myself if nothing more than to leave her that example.