Originally Posted by August252015

Helianthus, good points here. Step 4 is making a list of all people we have harmed, step 5 is becoming willing to make amends to them all. We don't actually make them yet, we accept that we are willing to(step 9 is making them). It is very emotional and getting to step 5 is huge because 4 can be so overwhelming for many of us that it is a common point of relapse.

But this stage doesn't have to be- like I said, I needed to trust the progress I had made and could keep making, and with my sponsor and other friends' help, keep going at a speed I could.