Now when I feel a pang of fear I stop and ask myself is this FEAR or is this just NEW. Alot of times it's just new and unknown. Facing my fears head on over and over again these past couple of years has taught me how so many of them are just paper tigers and there is no impending doom. And as I get outside my comfort zone more and more my fears are definitely decreasing. It's rare now for a fear to pop up, where I used to live in fight or flight.
When I was married to my AXH I lived my life in "what if" land. Now I say, so what, let me just do it and see and deal with it when and if that happens. Fear held me back from living with peace and serenity in my life. I'm not willing to give them up anymore. My peace, serenity, inner calm and happiness are way too important and fear is usually just an illusion. Breathe, investigate, and move through it.