Originally Posted by
CodeJob 
Personally I found a few articles by Floyd Garrett best at helping me understand why addicts do what they do. I actually printed two of the articles out and highlighted them and made notes, I carried them around like talismans along with The Language of Letting Go and my bookmark was a laminated Serenity Prayer.
I realized I was just a bit player and audience to an internal mental struggle.
Addiction, Lies and Relationships Oh God. Even the thought of only being a bit player is so hard to acknowledge, but it's true. Only a small part when we convince ourselves we were their everything.
I too read language of letting go daily. Very early days for me in codependent recovery.