"Relationship Red Flags You Should Never Ignore"
They describe all their exes as "crazy."
Some relationships end so badly that we're still sour at an ex or two years down the line—but if your new partner spews vitriol at any and all of their "crazy" former lovers, it's a good clue that they are the problem.
They make you feel stupid.
The Worst People On The Planet are those who gleefully gaslight their partners (read: twisting the truth to make you doubt your sanity, memory or reality.) Other gross tactics include regularly mocking your ideas or refusing to take your opinion seriously because they're so convinced they can change your mind anyway that they assume they can just skip the whole "valuing your perspective" stuff.
Beyond red flags, emotional abuse is abuse and he seems to have shown plenty of that.
I really appreciate this quote:
"Abuse is abuse is abuse. It’s not just a flag. It’s a siren."
Abusers apologize to placate and control.
Beyond the question if his drinking bothers you, trust your gut. You're picking up on all sorts of signs here for a reason.