Originally Posted by
bringmeback7693 
My friend is still not sober and cannot seem to grasp that she needs to get sober. She is not at fault- she seems to have been born that way. She is naturally incapable of grasping and developing a manner of living which demands rigorous honesty. Her chances are less than average...
You know more about her than I do, but this seems just a little pessimistic to me. Are you saying that she has tried to sober up and been unable to be honest with anyone? I mean you would need to work with someone who appears to be trying for quite a while before you could put them in the incapable of being honest group.
Having been in her position, my thought is that she simply cannot see the seriousness of her problem. By every form of self deception and experimentation she will try to prove herself an exception to the rule and therefore non alcoholic. They call it denial, though it is not a conscious decision to ignore the facts, it is a psychotic inability to see reality.
There is always hope, and she is lucky to have a friend like you. The book, in the section on working with others has some suggestions on how you might help her. The main thing is that at some point there will likely be a window of opportunity where she will catch a glimpse of reality and be open to your help. It might be a long time coming, but if you can be on hand at the right tme, you may be of real help. Don't despair, miracles happen, quite a lot in my experience.