Awal....you asked for some tips on coping.....here are a few that might help....
1. When he is blaming, criticizing, tearing you down---remind yourself that he is DEFLECTING....that is...taking the spotlight off of him and his actions, by, putting it onto you....It doesn't mean that the things he says are true--or, that he even, necessarily, believes that they are true....
Also, he may (probably) sees you as "the enemy" because you are coming between him and his drink....
2. Lower your expectations of him....you can't expect the alcoholic to behave as a normal, loving husband would....an addicted person's reality is filtered by distortions of thinking.....The less you expect, the less disappointed you will be....
3. Work on more detachment and distancing yourself from him....don't JADE when he triggers you---Justify; Argue; Defend; Explain. You don't have to attend every argument that you are invited to...lol...
Also, when he turns nasty...leave the room or area/house, every time that you can....or, simply put your earphone on....or go clean the bathroom or rearrange your clothing drawers....
It is hard to live with a practicing alcoholic---but, as long as you are--you have to learn how to tune him out and protect yourself and your own sanity….