I'm just going to say this, so what are you going to do, or not do. You have many people on this thread who have been there done that. We don't claim to know it all, we just know what we went thru.
It sounds like you are now weighing things in your head.
How are you doing.
Just wanted you to know that I went thru this. My ex was drunk when he came home. I tried to go to sleep about 1/2 hour after he came home. I was drinking that night, but I just didn't want to deal with anything. So I went to bed. He came up about 15 mins. later. He wanted sex, I didn't. Long story short, I went to the ER, he was arrested.
I don't know if you are new to posting about how things are going, or what you are going thru, just know that we really do care about you here.
(((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))
amy