Originally Posted by
sunshine72 
Have my son back after a month away. He is different. Just in a grown up way. Bound to happen.
So should I be concerned. Laying in bed husband thought I was asleep I look over and he is scrolling porn. I'm often asking if he is attracted to me and I always get a yes. I def have a high sex drive. I know I just went through surgery and haven't felt sexy lately. Should I be mad? I took off my ring and ripped up his photo I keep in my bedroom. I know I have that bottle of vodka in my closet and I came close. cant catch a break. Fml
Sunshine...first I want to say that I absolutely love how honest we can be here. I think all of us in recovery are the most honest people in the world because we've been through something that destroys people and we've had our egos dented and bruised a little bit.
Next, I would not be offended or worry if Mr. Sun was looking at porn. In no way does it mean he doesn't love you or feel attracted to you. He was indescrete and should have known better, but I don't think it means anything other than men have an extremely high sex drive.
Last, not to preach, but you have to dump that bottle of vodka please. You obviously were thinking about it and nothing good will come of it. Speaking for myself, I absolutely can't keep alcohol in the house or I'll drink it, even after over two years of being sober. Please get rid of it. that's the first thing. As for the porn, I wouldn't make an issue of it or drag him to counselling. It would be extremely embarrassing for Mr. Sun and would drive a wedge. I would seriously let it go. You can let him know it's not okay, but then drop it and don't rub his nose in it.