Originally Posted by
AnvilheadII 
10 years ago he had problems with alcohol.
10 years later he still does.
Originally Posted by
AnvilheadII you are out. now stay out. he is not going to magically change into a wonderful person. he's the same guy who broke your heart and behaved badly a decade ago.
How the hell did I find myself in this situation? I think I needed validation from a guy who hurt me all those years ago... I got it and then opened myself up to more pain.... was it love or masochism or a combo of both?! I feel I love him deeply but how did I get drawn back to someone who hurt me years ago... wtf is wrong with me?! I just wanted to believe in him, hoped he'd changed... and this time round I really feel he had changed ... the better side of him was definitely more mature and more committed to me than before and he really did / does love me... but the dark side just got worse!
Is there no hope at all for us? If he contacted me and said he was making an appointment with therapist and actually followed through... Do you suggest I still just leave him? Even if he was to actively seek help?