I have also listened to your posts Gerard- great thoughtfulness and start to sobriety.
For me, I had to put social concerns, outside events, rebuilding friendships, everything on the back burner for a pretty good while.
I didn't quite get it at first when my first sponsor in AA to,d me No Was a Complete Sentence. To anything and everything. I had to trust that though, bc staying sober was my top priority. It actually took a lot of pressure off me that I thought would be there, and erring on the side of caution was always the better choice...even when I looked back and thought yeah, I would have been fine doing that.i just decided that anyone who didn't like my choices to pass on things didn't get it and I couldn't worry about them,
Not always easy- sometimes I spent awhile "thinking through" this stuff, as Dee, outonthetiles, and the others from our Class of Feb 2016 supported me through! In the end, I learned and stayed sober.
Keep going and stick with us- you can do this.