Hi Wildflower & congratulations for making it to six months of sobriety. That is quite an accomplishment!
Regarding your family, if I had a drop of water for every time I was made to feel 'less than' and disrespected by my family I swear I could fill a great lake. And like you, it was exhausting trying to meet their expectations. I eventually stopped trying - including not visiting them when I felt it was risking my sanity.
Point is, you don't have to go see your family. I would take Dee's advice and site your health as a reason. Back out.
You and your sobriety is worth more than putting up with condescension and disrespect. You can always re-engage when you feel stronger.
Best to you.