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Old 07-31-2018, 04:56 PM
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Ken33xx
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Originally Posted by kevlarsjal2;6970521[B
]I don't know why you think I would get into arguments with them. I just said that it used to make me very insecure to be told that I am doing it wrong and it made me feel unwelcome when people told me things like that AA is for those who work the program and that there's no point in coming to the meetings otherwise.
But now I do no longer take it so personally and I accepted that I don't have to adapt to their ways or their beliefs even if they tell me that mine are wrong. I feel more secure now so I politely say that I will do whatever they advise me to do, when I feel the need for that. I don't know how this could be considered impolite or like I was getting into arguments with anyone. I never had an argument at a meeting, I am very conflict averse.
I am not saying you would. My point is meant as a general statement.

Even to politely suggest "you take what you need and leave the rest" may provoke a strong reaction in some members/groups.
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