I also want to clarify. When I say acceptance what I mean is...accepting that there is nothing I can do to change what he does and don't exert any effort to force changes that just aren't going to happen.
I'm not accepting crappy behavior anymore. I will just leave the house. I have plenty of places to go now. I will take my kids and dogs and bail. EFF that I want to live my best life and I damn sure know that I haven't been.