My exAgf tried to have me "drink normal",but the problem was neither of us were normal drinkers. Eventually she met a guy at the bar while I wasn't there,because..well..bars aren't very 'fun' for long when you're not drinking. She also tried to play the "I want to get sober too" card,but words without action are just words. Like your husband,she was miserable when not at least slightly intoxicated. She was a downright B**** when blackout drunk towards the last couple years together,so it just made sense for me to leave her. Her new guy has already left her too. It's YOUR life to live and same for him. Maybe he'll come around...maybe he won't.