Unless your spouse is actually "sabotaging" you - ie sneaking alcohol into your apple juice in the morning, I doubt it's something other than a normie not able to understand the level of your problem. For me, up until and maybe even including now, my wife never "got" why I couldn't just have a couple and leave it. It's just a level of understanding that is very hard for people who are not addicts to achieve.
I used to like it! Would mean that I could convince her that I could have a couple drinks and things would be fine. Only I knew just what that meant - and that I would end up down the same dark, deceitful alcohol road.