Originally Posted by
sokatie 
Is there ever a time that you are sober and don't even think about drinking? How do I get there?
You get there by staying sober.
I'm not trying to sound facetious. As someone else posted, "it takes time." Sober time. Relapses just kick off the whole cycle of obsessing about drinking. But a solid plan of recovery will not only get you and keep you sober, but it will give you the means to live and love the sober life. Then you will not think about drinking.