Is this what acceptance looks like?
He slipped. Of course he did, barely two weeks sober, no sponsor, no program of any kind and a mandatory work conference in the french quarter of New Orleans. It's my hometown, I've partied down there. Maybe I was prepared because of the circumstances.
He told me he slipped. I didn't cry or get upset, I just said "I know" he apologized. I asked him why he was apologizing. He said "because I failed" I told him if he feels that way he didn't fail me. I really thought I'd be more upset. I'm not.
He did mention this morning that he has another assessment with a psychiatrist and intake for the STAR program at the VA and did I want to go? I really don't. I think that if he really wants this, he needs to go on his own. I feel like my presence makes it seem like he either can't do it on his own or I'm making him but if he goes alone, he's doing it for himself.