Ohhh, i love that second quote you shared Honeypig! It's what I'm battling right now with my ex bf. I can't get him out of his own denial and I can't fix his perspective to open his eyes to reality. I know that, and I still love him but I know it's not healthy for us to be together.
The greatest thing I learned in recovery is that I can love someone and accept them, but still choose to walk away and turn them over to their Higher Power. I don't need to fix them....I can leave that to God and turn myself over to forgiveness and grace and peace.
HUGS! thanks for sharing!