Well thanks you guys I can see the wisdom in letting him face the consequences of his actions. Right now he is guilting my 21 yr old asperger son into living with him. That will hold my son back emotionally and from my sons mouth came “I can’t leave someone who is sick” . The whole thing makes me sick, AH is using my son as company so he doesn’t have to be alone, he lies constantly to him, and it’s setting my son up to not live successfully on his own. When AH dies of this disease my son won’t have any skills to make it and I will not let him freeride with me because eventually I will be dead as well. Just so everyone understands my son is super high functioning and has successfully lived alone before,but he had a one bad semester in college and is now transferring to a school near home.