I'm sorry to read it's getting creepy Liz.
You don't deserve that!
Any chance he's an unrecovering codie? His reaction reeks of "lack of control". Both violence & sex would restore that feeling of imbalance to someone spiraling due to lack of control over a situation.... and like anvil pointed out above (& I've agreed with over the term of your relationship) he has a long history of exerting control under the guise of "support" in your relationship - just a thought.
