Originally Posted by
Glenjo99 
I know what you mean. The push pull shenanigans do wear thin, and there is an age Gap here as well, so that is a factor. I'm a mature student now and work part time, ironically I'm studying counselling (couldn't make it up). Still goes to show that we are all human and need help.
Well, if nothing else this will enable you to have compassion for those that come to you for counselling. Not saying you are not compassionate but you have now walked in their shoes.
Here's a thought. First of all, if you had someone in counselling and they told you your story, what would you advise?
Secondly, have you pondered that if you were in a relationship with someone else how much that might bring to you? In a healthy relationship there is give and take. People don't disappear for weeks with no contact, they don't belittle, they don't rage they don't insult or make you fearful.
You sound like a nice, thoughtful person, is this the partner you want?