Dawn rising- I just went through what you are going through. Taking the high road was tough. My husband was as dismissive and lying as can be and he had no remorse. It won't be easy. It is a lottt of pain but what really was I grieving ? The loss of that illusion of a marriage I thought I had. In reality, it was never that. I had my sponsor from al anon go with me for my deposition and court. Reach out to anyone you can and don't be afraid to ask for help. PM me .