Originally Posted by
Forward12 
You mention you're still drinking wine and beer, so you haven't even started.
Booze needs to be completely gone in every form before your sobriety can start.
This is just what I was going to contribute - you might want to look into other threads (there are tons) about moderation, changing [ ] about what/when/where/etc we drink, etc. I think I mentioned to you on another thread that this is not a moderation site- so most of us are likely to pick up on folks' comments about this approach.
My husband and I are both in recovery. Which means we have accepted that we cannot drink. We have to work on ourselves individually before we can work on our collective life in recovery.
IME, getting myself straight first is the only way I can have healthy relationships with anyone else.