I agree with Fini and Berrybean that closure comes from us, not from the other parties involved Sweetichick.
My ex wife would still be involving me in all kinds of drama if I let her.
I don't let her. It not even about blame or right and wrong - I'm not sure its a conscious thing on her part.
I like my life drama free or as close as that can be.
Building healthy boundaries is the first step I think.
There are some good ideas here.
https://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-1317...oundaries.html
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