Snuf I'm sure that the problems you have in the relationship aren't all one sided, and I wasn't suggesting that for a minute.
I got angry at friends of mine for blowing my cover too, even tho I'd been pretty public about it, they went a step beyond that to peoples parents too.
In the end I had to let it go - I tried to rationalise that that wasn't me anymore than was the old me.
Those friends parents have never bought it up in the last 10 years
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