I am suggesting you work on something. Doing the same thing will likely end with the same results. My husband tried every method imaginable and rejected AA. A two year battle that ended with 2 DUIs in 24 hours, lost job and in the end, AA was his salvation. 8 years sober!
If you want to try an alternate approach, you need to TRY it! My personal quit is young right now and I am still sorting things out for myself so I get it. I hear you saying you are on your way to a relapse, so I would move on something to pre empt that. Going to a meeting is NOT a commitment. I am not a follower of the program but I have found a meeting helpful when I am feeling weak.