I don’t have experience and haven’t heard of home detox. My STBXAH went to inpatient detox twice, residential rehab, and IOP. Echo the thought that you don’t have to monitor him. You have the right to say no, and it’s not on you if that deters him from treatment. If an MD is prescribing over the phone and expects a non medical person to monitor vitals every few hours that on their license, not you.
I can say that having been through the turmoil of detox and treatment a few times over the last 10 months, the treatments are: 1) focused on the addict and not you. Don’t let them put anything on you you are not comfortable with. I felt very guilt ridden and manipulated to provide ‘care’ for AH the first time around. It was a mistake and he blamed me for his failure at sobriety. 2) the field seems full of people with their own pathology. A few caregivers seemed They were acting out their own stuff.
Sorry you’re going through so much stress at the moment.