Wow, what a win for you. I feel for him too. And it's amazing how sobriety can give you the tools to handle such a situation with love and compassion. You will be the shining example of what sobriety can do for you. Let him see it work in you and i bet he will want to follow. I didn't realize that he had a problem or knew he had a problem. That's a win in itself. I think you handled it beautifully. He apologized for leaving you in the dark, which was important. I remember texting my bf often when he was out of town working and he wouldn't reply because he had fallen asleep early drunk. I would get so angry and upset and let it ruin my days and nights (I was of course also drinking). I'm glad you're feeling positive about the whole thing, I think you should be.