Lakegirl….I don't see his logic as "twisted"...in the context of him being an alcoholic who is still fighting with his "alcoholic voice". I see it as very logical, for him. I completely do get it that this seem impossible for you to get your head around. You, after all, are not an alcoholic.....and, he is....
To you, I am sure this seem like simple logic, to do the things that you would like for him to do....You don't have the alcoholic brain....that has suffered the change in your neurotransmitters, that an alcoholic has. His goals are not your goals....in that he needs to keep the relationship with alcohol...that helps him deal with life, and the feelings that come with it. To think of never having a drink, ever again, feels like a "death" sentence, to an alcoholic