Originally Posted by trailmix

Yes, I see where you are coming from.

I guess this is just out of my realm of experience. I have never invited someone else in to a relationship I am in.

That is not to say that I haven't discussed relationships with trusted others, I certainly have.

This is going to be blunt so please forgive that, I don't mean it in any confrontational way. Your plan sounds manipulative. Like trying to make him face up to his problem. Come clean to a third party. Humble himself. Forcing/expecting someone to do that is unfathomable to me. Even if none of that is true, at the very least, you are still setting up an expectation which will probably not come to fruition.

I do wish you well, it's a tough situation you are in.