Originally Posted by
trailmix 
Yes, personally I would just pick up the phone and say - if AH drinks again the kiddies and I will be on your doorstep so if you hear the key in the front door at 1 in the morning that's us.
^^^ Sounds right to me. That plan keeps your husband out of your business (deciding when/if/how you leave) and keeps you out of his business (deciding when/if/how to talk to your parents about his drinking).