So here's the thing....
I'm not worrying or taking on any responsibility for what his reaction would be.
I'm simply giving thought to it, preparing myself for possible outcomes.
Does that make sense?
I don't feel that I'm unreasonable to want some open communication with my husband while he's sober (and yes, I know I know....just because he's sober doesn't meaning he's really able to understand what I'm saying.).
So for me, at least I know that I have done what my conscience felt was right - to let him know the boundary. Whether or not he hears it correctly or not...up to him, of course.
My question was basically this: I could tell my parents preemptively OR I could give him some time to be able to do it on his on unprompted (key word there) by me. One could argue that he's had plenty of time already to do that.....I guess that's one way to look at it . My parents work completely opposite hours from each other and my husband also works insane hours, so there are a lot of logistical issues with arranging to talk to them.