Originally Posted by
FireSprite 
Yep. I honestly disagree completely with discussing your contingency plans with the person who may create the situation requiring such a thing. It's illogical, especially with the unpredictability of addiction.
This is why, IMO, separate recoveries are necessary - what is good for one is not necessarily understood by the other. No way he sees this as trust BUILDING on his side - the entire situation exists because you can't trust him to stay sober & therefore need a Plan B. How else can he hear that, at less than 90 days sober? And it IS exactly what you mean, right?
Does your counselor specialize in addictions?
Yes, counselor specializes in addictions and PTSD.
The reason for discussing the plan with my husband was so that the boundary is clear and known and give him the opportunity to tell my parents. (I'm not going to pressure him into telling them at this point. I think it's pretty clear that he's not going to step up and do it.)