Grunge, really nailed it... "The fear of step 4 (getting honest with myself about my past)
It says Made a searching and fearless inventory of ourselves.. I would use the BB and not pay much attention to the others, this is a very personal matter..
There's a ton or stuff on the Web and Youtube to get ideas.. and forms on Silkworth.org to fill out and get ideas..
people get hung up on this step trying to write the perfect 4.. personally I don't think that's what its about. remember it;s all about Progress not perfection!!
wishing your husband the best!! Keep him going to the club!!!