I can not live another persons recovery. As the saying goes, "different strokes for different folks". It took all of your experiences to bring you into the rooms of NA and as much as it may hurt, maybe your friends just haven't reached the point where they are ready to stop using. I have no friends that followed me into recovery, and it does hurt to see them still out there. But I have planted the seed of recovery. They occasionally see me, not incarcerated, showered, clean clothes, working, and just being a member of society, and they all know where to go when they are ready. The rooms of Narcotics Anonymous. And I will be right here waiting for them, open arms and ready to help them, once they have become ready, and have come to seek that help. So to sum it up, I can never "help" an addict who doesn't want help, ever try to lead a donkey to water?