You said in an earlier thread:
Originally Posted by
akrasia 
Hiya,
My husband's alcoholism manifests as binges and then long sober periods. The binges always follow a period of "moderated drinking". Like he'll go a few months sober, then say, "huh, maybe I can drink normally after all," then a few weeks later we've got a binge again.
So his drinking is not just binging, he also drinks between binges with a few sober periods as well.
You also mentioned that he is quite clear that he is not going to stop drinking - period.
So nothing has changed and it's not going to. He's basically saying - you bend your boundaries (well chop them up and throw them away) and we are all good. Which is what he said before.
Now you have had some distance and your life is not sitting on the edge of your seat wondering if it's sober time or "moderating" time or binge time, I can see how that situation doesn't look so awful, because you aren't feeling awful.
It will be more of the same but of course, that's your choice.