I understand she is their grandma
This no longer means anything to me. I have no apologies, only good things happening for cutting ties with Toxic people.
I've explained to her there are boundary lines that we all need to learn how to respect.
We can't change other people. When someone shows us who they are, it's up to us to learn new actions to take. One day at a time, I pray, I meditate, I learn to enjoy life. In this, as crap comes up for me to deal with I have new skills to take new actions.
The past and the future are too big for me to deal with. Letting God guide this one day, I keep experiencing great things.
It is possible. Hang in there!!
(((hugs)))