In early sobriety I cried when anyone said the word, "You." I was so seriously without any personal boundaries that I felt everything anyone said was surely a judgement of me.
Turns out people were just living and I was just too sensitive.
She means well. I had to figure out how to hold my serenity regardless of what others do.
It takes a little time. Just worry about getting well - what she does is not in your control.
The cure for anything is salt water: sweat, tears, or the sea.
~ Isak Dinesen